"Not being virulently and overtly racist against black people" and "treating gay people like human beings" are necessary conditions of greatness.

If your wife briefly corrects someone with "Actually, I'm bisexual" during conversation, it hardly sounds like attempting to remain an object of desire to me. If she went around saying, "Actually, I'm still very interested in men, particularly you, you massive dose of sexual charisma," you might have a case.

To stop challenging someone from using anti-gay language simply because they persist in using anti-gay language strikes me as a defeatist approach.

There are few things more disconcerting than realizing the first date you thought went so well was in fact a dud.

Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are.

You who have suffered so much do not want to be with the kind of person who makes "black widow" jokes to deal with an uncomfortable, painful moment. You should be with a person capable of great compassion and understanding.

If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.