Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.

Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.

Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis.

Needs are the expression of life through us.

I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

Imagine connecting with the human spirit in each person in any situation at any time. Imagine interacting with others in a way that allows everyone's need to be equally valued. Imagine creating organizations and life-serving systems responsive to our needs and the needs of our environment.