Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.

All that has been integrated into NVC has been known for centuries about consciousness, language, communication skills, and use of power that enable us to maintain a perspective of empathy for ourselves and others, even under trying conditions.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need.