Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs.

You don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid.

Postpone result/solution thinking until later; it's through connection that solutions materialize - empathy before education.

Conventional compliments often take the form of judgments however positive, and are sometimes offered to manipulate the behavior of others. NVC encourages the expression of appreciation solely for celebration.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.

The more we talk about the past, the less we heal from it.