Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs.

Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.

Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.

When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer.

Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis.

If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.

Ask before offering advice or reassurance.