What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.

When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.

In a Giraffe institution, the head nurse job would be to serve the nurses, not to control them. Teachers are there to serve the students, not control them.

Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

If you are a czar or a king or a president or someone that wants to control those below them you do not want people to have a consciousness of life, of their needs. Because people do not make good slaves when they're connected to life... That's why in the public schools the primary objective is obedience to authority.

The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.