A need is life seeking expression within us.

There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.

Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values

NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.

All people ever say is: THANK YOU (a celebration of life) and PLEASE (an opportunity to make life more wonderful).

Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person.