Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.

Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it.

Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.

We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.