Every time I mess up is a chance to practice.

You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking, your chance of getting what you need is greatly decreased, especially when you follow the word "think" with the word "you". I predict you won't only not get heard, but I predict a defensive aggressive reaction.

Fear of punishment diminishes self-esteem and goodwill.

Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.

Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.

As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.

Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.