We're not taught to think in terms of needs. We don't make nice dead people when we're in touch with needs. Domination structures cannot maintain themselves when citizens are educated to be alive.
Marshall B. RosenbergYou don't have to be brilliant. It's enough to become progressively less stupid.
Marshall B. RosenbergWe can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.
Marshall B. RosenbergIf you think ahead to what to say next - like how to fix it or make the person feel better - BOOM! Off the board. You're into the future. Empathy requires staying with the energy that's here right now. Not using any technique. Just being present. When I have really connected to this energy, it's like I wasn't there. I call this "watching the magic show". In this presence, a very precious energy works through us that can heal anything, and this relieves me from my "fix-it" tendencies.
Marshall B. Rosenberg