By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Labeling and diagnosis is a catastrophic way to communicate. Telling other people what's wrong with them greatly reduces, almost to zero, the probability that we're going to get what we're after.