When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.

All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.

I have tried to integrate the spirituality into the training in a way that meets my need not to destroy the beauty of it through abstract philosophizing.

Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.