Focusing on the unmet need (not the judgment) is more likely to get the need met.

Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.

Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our likelihood of getting our need met! Even if we think it. And secondly, because it increases the likelihood of violence. That's why I'm suggesting any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Say the need! Learn a need-consciousness.

Miracles can happen when we can keep our consciousness away from analyzing and classifying one another.

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.

How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse.