Any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Tragic, first because it decreases our likelihood of getting our need met! Even if we think it. And secondly, because it increases the likelihood of violence. That's why I'm suggesting any evaluation which implies rightness or wrongness is a tragic, suicidal expression of an unmet need. Say the need! Learn a need-consciousness.
Marshall B. RosenbergWhile we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves.
Marshall B. RosenbergNVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.
Marshall B. RosenbergIn nonviolent communication, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Then we may wish to reflect back, paraphrasing what we have understood. We stay with empathy, allowing others the opportunity to fully express themselves before we turn our attention to solutions or requests for relief.
Marshall B. Rosenberg