Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

Natural Giving: Anything we do in life which is not out of that energy, we pay for and everybody else pays for. Anything we do to avoid punishment, everybody pays for. Everything we do for a reward, everybody pays for. Everything we do to make people like us, everybody pays for. Everything we do out of guilt, shame, duty, or obligation, everybody pays for.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.

The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

Regardless of our many differences, we all have the same needs. What differs is the strategy for fulfilling these needs.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.