Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

We need empathy to give empathy.

Instead of playing the game "Making Life Wonderful", we often play the game called "Who's Right". Do you know that game? It's a game where everybody loses.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don't know how to ask for it.