Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other. For example, if to be in love, or to be married, it means that I'm responsible for the other person's happiness, now we get into this guilt game, where if they're upset, I'm at fault. Soon, that makes the person we are closest to about as much fun to be around as a prolonged dental appointment.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.

Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.