I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs.

In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

When we make mistakes, we can use the process of NVC mourning and self-forgiveness to show us where we can grow instead of getting caught up in moralistic self-judgments.

When you are in a jackal environment, never give them the power to submit or rebel. We want to teach this to children very early: Never lose track that you are always free to choose. Don't allow institutions to determine what you do.

When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.

As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.