The key to fostering connection in the face of a 'no' is always hearing 'yes' to something else.

Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.

All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

My ultimate goal is to spend as many of my moments in life as I can in that world that the poet Rumi talks about, 'a place beyond rightness and wrongness.

Depression is the reward we get for being 'good'.

Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.