The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing

People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.

If you are a czar or a king or a president or someone that wants to control those below them you do not want people to have a consciousness of life, of their needs. Because people do not make good slaves when they're connected to life... That's why in the public schools the primary objective is obedience to authority.

This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.