When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Anger is a signal that you're distracted by judgmental or punitive thinking, and that some precious need of yours is being ignored.

When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

I try never to hear what another person thinks of me. I enjoy life a lot more when I spend as little time as possible hearing or thinking about what other people think about me. I go to the needs behind the thoughts. Then I'm in a different world.