In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

Four D's of Disconnection: 1. Diagnosis (judgment, analysis, criticism, comparison); 2. Denial of Responsibility; 3. Demand; 4. 'Deserve' oriented language.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.