In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.

I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.

Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

We are responsible for what we hear other people say and for how we act.

When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.

NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy and counseling, diplomatic and business negotiations, disputes and conflicts of any nature.