Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs.

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.

All people ever say is: THANK YOU (a celebration of life) and PLEASE (an opportunity to make life more wonderful).

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it.

This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

When people hear needs, it provokes compassion. When people hear diagnoses, it provokes defensiveness and attack.