Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need.

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.