Have you ever been surfing? Imagine you're on your surfboard now, waiting for the big one to come. Get ready to get carried with that energy. Now, here it comes. That's empathy. No words - just being with that energy. When I connect with what's alive in another person, I have feelings similar to when I'm surfing.

Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

NVC self-forgiveness: connecting with the need we were trying to meet when we took the action that we now regret.

Understanding and connection can transcend conflict.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

Classifying and judging people promotes violence.

NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.