When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values.

Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

When we are angry, killing people is too superficial.

Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request?

When we judge others we contribute to violence.