Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.

It's never what people do that makes us angry; it's what we tell ourselves about what they did.

Depression is the reward we get for being 'good'.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.