The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

If we become skilled in giving ourselves empathy, we often experience in just a few seconds a natural release of energy which then enables us to be present with the other person. If this fails to happen, however, we have a couple of other choices.

I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.

Anger, depression, guilt, and shame are the product of the thinking that is at the base of violence on our planet.

Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.

Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.