You're going to lose it when you follow the world "feel" with the words "because I think". Any time you are thinking, your chance of getting what you need is greatly decreased, especially when you follow the word "think" with the word "you". I predict you won't only not get heard, but I predict a defensive aggressive reaction.

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.

A second even more obvious sign is that the person will stop talking. If we are uncertain as to whether we have stayed long enough in the process, we can always ask, "Is there more that you wanted to say"?

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.