Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.

Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

A respectful understanding of another's experience.

In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.