Criticism, analysis, and insults are tragic expressions of unmet needs.

It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.

Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.

Peace requires something far more difficult than revenge or merely turning the other cheek; it requires empathizing with the fears and unmet needs that provide the impetus for people to attack each other. Being aware of these feelings and needs, people lose their desire to attack back because they can see the human ignorance leading to these attacks; instead, their goal becomes providing the empathic connection and education that will enable them to transcend their violence and engage in cooperative relationships.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing