The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.

When we judge others we contribute to violence.

NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.

Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

We need empathy to give empathy. When we sense ourselves being defensive or unable to empathize, we need to (a) stop, breathe, give ourselves empathy, (b) scream nonviolently, or (c) take time out.

I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire.