Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.

NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to our own well-being and the well-being of others.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.

As we learn to speak from the heart we are changing the habits of a lifetime.