If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

Challenging behavior is just a signal, the fever, the means by which the kid is communicating that he or she is having difficulty meeting an expectation.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

People don't scream or swear or pout or sulk when there's compatibility. But most growth occurs when there's incompatibility. When it comes to resilience, when it comes to pulling yourself up when you've fallen down, you don't learn those things when things are going well. You learn those things when you're struggling.