Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people's interests first.
What you have to give, you offer least of all through what you say; in greater part through what you do; but in greatest part through who you are.
Play the Reverse gossip game. See how many nice things you can say behind someones back.
Unless you are able to influence the way others think and act, your chances for success are limited.
The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.
Go looking for the best in people and you'll be amazed at how much talent, ingenuity, empathy and good you will find.