Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.

When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain that turns it into suffering.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.