Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.

Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers. Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you'll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next.