When we are willing to accept our experience, just as it is, a strange thing happens: it changes into something else. When we avoid pain, struggle not to feel it, pain turns into suffering.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

We are what we think about. When we stay fixed on one person, thought or situation, we get caught in the grip of self-centered thoughts. The more we give attention to that which is upsetting, the more strength it has to rule our lives.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.