Take action every day - some small dose at a time.
Lunch should consist of at least 1/3 relationship building talk. If you don't have time for business talk, it was a very successful lunch.
Failure is not about insecurity. It's about lack of execution.
Create a story of WOW that will be retold.
Once you discover what your attitude is, or isn't, you'll have a starting point and an understanding of how to move forward.
Listening is the hard part. Listening is the important part. The hot button is in the prospect's response.