It’s like, you know, it doesn’t matter what you do, even if you try to replicate an experience down to every last detail, it’ll never be the way it was when it happened naturally the first time.
J.A. RedmerskiBut as I stood there dressed in a cute black pants suit and white button-up shirt and heels, I felt completely out of place. Not necessarily because of the clothes, but…I just don’t belong there. I can’t put my finger on it, but that Monday and the rest of that week when I woke up, got dressed and walked into that store, something was itching the back part of my consciousness. I couldn’t hear the actual words, but it felt like: This is your life, Camryn Bennett. This is your life.
J.A. RedmerskiPain hurts, but pain that's so powerful that you can't feel anymore, that's when you start to feel like you're going crazy.
J.A. RedmerskiWell, I’m glad you didn’t drown.” His eyes warm up with his face. I smile back at him. “Yeah, that would’ve sucked.” “Definitely.
J.A. RedmerskiI guess sometimes the greatest memories are made in the most unlikely of places, further proof that spontaneity is more rewarding than a meticulously planned life.
J.A. RedmerskiBecause this is our life. We met on the road; we grew to know and to love each other on the road. It's where we were meant to be for however long, and it's what we're going to do until it becomes clear that we're meant to do something else.
J.A. RedmerskiIt’s my future and my life and I can’t make myself live the way someone else wants me to.
J.A. RedmerskiWell, everybody needs help feeling alive again every once in a while.” “No,” she says seriously, and my gaze falls back on hers, “I didn’t say again, Andrew; for making me feel alive for the first time.
J.A. RedmerskiJust remember to always be yourself and don’t be afraid to speak your mind or to dream out loud
J.A. RedmerskiTruthfully, he lives right next to the Sexy Tree and I think that's the only thing that bothers me about this whole situation.
J.A. RedmerskiMy plant is probably dead." Camryn looks slightly surprised. "You have a plant?" I smile. "Yeah, her name's Georgia.
J.A. RedmerskiYou’re sleeping with an assassin, running for your life every single day from men who want to kill you and you’re convinced you’re going to die of discomfort.
J.A. RedmerskiI could die in this bed with him right now, wrapped in his arms and I would never know that I had died.
J.A. RedmerskiI loved Ian in the now, the way he looked at me, how he made my stomach swim, how he held my hair when I was puking my guts up after eating a bad enchilada. That’s love.
J.A. RedmerskiHis face spreads into a warm smile. “As a matter of fact, no, I have never slept under the stars – are you gettin’ all romantic on me, Camryn Bennett?” He looks at me with a playful sideward stare.
J.A. RedmerskiAre you in love with me, Camryn Bennett?” … “Not yet,” I say with a smile in my voice, “but I’m getting there.
J.A. RedmerskiThings always change when someone you love dies. You just can't prepare youself for those changes no matter what you do in advance. The only thing that's a certainty in always wondering who's going to be next.
J.A. RedmerskiI shattered that memory by going back there. Without realizing it until it was too late, I replaced that memory with the emptiness of that day.
J.A. Redmerskilet yourself cry, OK? One of the worst feelings in the world is being unable to cry and eventually it…starts to make things darker.
J.A. RedmerskiI believe that no matter what happens, or where we go, or if there's an afterlife, that we'll always be connected. Not even death can make me forget you, or forget that I love you.
J.A. RedmerskiOne more thing: don’t feel bad for not telling me that you loved me. You didn’t need to say it. I knew all along that you did.
J.A. RedmerskiPromise me that if I ever get Alzheimer’s or dementia, and I don’t remember anyone that you’ll visit me every day and read to me like Noah read to Allie.
J.A. RedmerskiI think when you fall in love, like true love, it’s love for life. All the rest is just experiences and delusions.
J.A. RedmerskiThe moment you see someone attractive, you can't help but make note of it. It's human nature.
J.A. RedmerskiA real fighter never cries, never lets the weight of any blow bring him down. Except that final blow, the inevitable one, but even then they always go out like men.
J.A. RedmerskiVictor Faust did much more than help me escape a life of abuse and servitude. He changed me. He changed the landscape of my dreams, the dreams I had every day about living ordinarily and free and on my own. He changed the colors on the palette from primary to rainbow—as dark as the colors of that rainbow may be.
J.A. RedmerskiTwo people unable to cry finally cry together and in the world ended today, we would be fulfilled.
J.A. RedmerskiLive in the moment, where everything is just right, take your time and limit your bad memories and you'll get wherever it is you're going a lot faster and with less bumps in the way.
J.A. RedmerskiNever thought I’d intentionally sleep on a bathromm floor next to a toilet while sober, but I meant it when I said I would sleep anywhere with her.
J.A. RedmerskiI know you lost your partner in crime, but...I want YOU to be MINE. Maybe WE should travel the world together, Camryn...I know I can't replace your ex--" "Andrew...it was always you.
J.A. RedmerskiWhat compels any of us to do the things we do when deep down a part of us just wants to break free from it all?
J.A. RedmerskiTo love someone so deeply means also that it will hurt a thousand times more when he disappoints or leaves you
J.A. RedmerskiHeart always wins out over the mind. The heart, although reckless and suicidal and a masochist all on its own, always gets its way.
J.A. RedmerskiJust because one person's problem is less traumatic than another's doesn't mean they're required to hurt less
J.A. RedmerskiBest friends, no matter what they do or how much they hurt you, it only hurts as much as it does because they are your best friend. And none of us are perfect. Mistakes were made for best friends to forgive; it’s what makes being a best friend official.
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