Failure is not attached to outcome, but in not trying. This way, it is about answering to yourself.
Sara BlakelyWithin the first year of launching my company, Spanx, I decided to go over to England and cold-call Harrods, Harvey Nichols, and Selfridges the same way I had cold-called Neiman Marcus, Saks, Nordstrom, and Bloomingdale's here in the United States.
Sara BlakelyCourage is doing something despite the fear, and I've worked hard on being a courageous person.
Sara BlakelyEminem's 'Lose Yourself' is my go-to song to pump myself up if I'm having a tough time or if I get really nervous right before a speech.
Sara BlakelyI'm obsessed with the customer. I am the customer. I really don't think you can go wrong if you don't take your eye off of that. Serving the customer. How does she feel? I feel like the fashion industry has cared a lot about how we look but not about how we feel.
Sara BlakelyYouโve got to visualize where youโre headed and be very clear about it. Take a polaroid picture of where youโre going to be in a few years.
Sara BlakelyI feel that women have been neglected, unnecessarily neglected and mistreated personally by the fashion industry and shapewear in that entire category was a definite place that we were neglected.
Sara BlakelyI have this system where if I buy three or four new things, I give away three or four things. Sometimes, it's a very painful system, but shopping is even better when you know that someone else who needs it will be getting. Keep the clothing karma going, I say.
Sara BlakelyI'd never worked in fashion or retail. I just needed an undergarment that didn't exist.
Sara BlakelyEverything about my journey to get Spanx off the ground entailed me having to be a salesperson - from going to the hosiery mills to get a prototype made to calling Saks Fifth Avenue and Neiman Marcus. I had to position myself to get five minutes in the door with buyers.
Sara BlakelyIt's important to be willing to make mistakes. The worst thing that can happen is you become memorable.
Sara BlakelyI've always leaned toward a feminine, funky style, even in business settings. I used to paint my nails blue in 1993, before it was mainstream.
Sara BlakelyFailures are life's way of nudging you and letting you know you are off course. Trying new things and not being afraid to fail along the way are more important than what you learn in school.
Sara BlakelyIf somebody can do something 80 percent as good as you think you would have done it yourself, then you've got to let it go.
Sara BlakelyI couldn't figure out what to wear under my clothes. The body shapers were too thick at the time.
Sara BlakelyDon't be intimidated by what you don't know. That can be your greatest strength and ensure that you do things differently from everyone else.
Sara BlakelyI would say where I feel like I'm struggling the most in learning and giving myself permission to fail is in finding the balance in life. There are different aspects to women: there's the mother, there's the working woman, there's the wife, the friend, the sister, the daughter and so just figuring that all out. I continue to want to try new things and give myself permission to not be great at it.
Sara BlakelyI took a Fear of Flying class, and I always missed the class, because I was always flying.
Sara BlakelyDon't solicit feedback on your product, idea or your business just for validation purposes. You want to tell the people who can help move your idea forward, but if you're just looking to your friend, co-worker, husband or wife for validation, be careful. It can stop a lot of multimillion-dollar ideas in their tracks in the beginning.
Sara BlakelyWhen I was a child, my father used to encourage my brother and me to fail. At the dinner table, instead of asking about the best part of our day, he would ask us what we failed at that week. If we didn't have something to tell him, he would be disappointed. When we shared whatever failure we'd endured, he'd high-five us and say, 'Way to go!' The gift my father gave us by doing this was redefining what failure truly meant.
Sara BlakelyI grew up in a house where my father encouraged my brother and me to fail. I specifically remember coming home and saying, 'Dad, Dad, I tried out for this or that and I was horrible,' and he would high-five me and say, 'Way to go.'
Sara BlakelyI started thinking about joy. Everything in our society is so purposeful. Let's bring joy back to the experience.
Sara BlakelyWe don't have the luxury of time. We spend more because of how we live, but it's important to be with our family and friends.
Sara BlakelyI made a conscious decision not to tell anyone in my life. Now I tell people - don't tell anyone your idea until you have invested enough of yourself in it that you are not going to turn back. When a person has an idea at that conception moment it is the most vulnerable - one negative comment could knock you off course.
Sara BlakelyMost of us want to tell our coworkers or friends, or husbands or wives, our ideas. For what reason? We want validation. But I feel ideas are most vulnerable in their infancy. Out of love and concern, friends and family give all the reasons or objections on why [you] shouldn't do it. I didn't want to risk that.
Sara BlakelyI didn't want women to walk out of the dressing rooms feeling depressed and wanting a cocktail.
Sara BlakelyInstead of failure being the outcome, failure became not trying. And it forced me at a young age to want to push myself so much further out of my comfort zone.
Sara BlakelyWhen something I can't control happens, I ask myself : where is the hidden gift, where is the positive in this?
Sara BlakelyWhen I was 7, I came up with the idea of 'charm socks.' My mom would take me to buy bags of plastic charms, we would sew them on frilly white socks, and I sold them at school.
Sara BlakelyThe thing about fashion - it's like ducks going quack, quack quack. It's being dictated from above, and it just makes me want to rebel against it.
Sara BlakelyMy first account was Neiman Marcus. I cold-called them just like I had cold-called businesses when I was selling fax machines for seven years.
Sara BlakelyThere is a hidden blessing in the most traumatic things we go through in our lives. My brain always goes to, 'Where is the hidden blessing? What is my gift?'
Sara BlakelyWhen I was growing up, my dad would encourage my brother and I to fail. We would be sitting at the dinner table and he would ask, 'So what did you guys fail at this week?' If we didn't have something to contribute, he would be disappointed. When I did fail at something, he'd high-five me. What I didn't realize at the time was that he was completely reframing my definition of failure at a young age. To me, failure means not trying; failure isn't the outcome. If I have to look at myself in the mirror and say, 'I didn't try that because I was scared,' that is failure.
Sara Blakely