Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven't said to that someone.
Iyanla VanzantWe set the standard of how we want to be treated. Our relationships are reflections of the relationships we have with ourselves.
Iyanla VanzantSo many of us invest a fortune making ourselves look good to the world, yet inside we are falling apart. It's time to invest on the inside.
Iyanla VanzantFear wears so many clever disguises it is virtually impossible to always recognize it. Fear disguises itself as the need to be somewhere else, doing something else, not knowing how to do something or not needing to do something.
Iyanla VanzantThe beloved is one who nurtures you, trusts you, supports you, encourages you, loves you without conditions. That's you.
Iyanla VanzantEmbrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth, we live our lives like it's golden.
Iyanla VanzantNo matter what is going on in your life today, remember, it is only preparation. People come and go; situations rise and fall; it's all preparation for better things. You must stretch, reach, grow into your goodness. Without the preparation we receive through adversity, disappointment, confusion, or pain, we could not appreciate the goodness when it arrives.
Iyanla VanzantI had to get really clear about what was meaningful & what wasn't, who I was & who I wasn't & who I wasn't going to be anymore.
Iyanla VanzantBeloveds, you are fine, just the way you are! Perfect in your imperfection! You are divine! Growing brighter and more brilliant each day, you can accept the truth of who you are.
Iyanla VanzantLove is not all that is required in a relationship. It needs understanding, openness, kidness, patience, long-suffering
Iyanla VanzantKnow thyself. Accept thyself. Love thyself. No matter what you have done, where you have been, know, accept, and love who you are.
Iyanla VanzantFinally and most important of all, authenticity means that you must do what you do the way you do it and allow everyone else the same courtesy. There was a time I wanted to be like every famous writer that ever lived. I tried to copy styles, reframe information, use similar artwork. I almost drove myself crazy! Now I just do what I do. I have mentors. There are people whose work I admire, but I write the way I write. I eat the way I eat. I dress the way I dress. I can't believe that God made us each so unique only to have us do everything the same way.
Iyanla VanzantAfter being on 'Oprah' for a couple of months, I got my first royalty check for $1,478,392.17. I will never forget it. At the height of my career, I made $3.3 million. Unbelievable. From welfare in the projects to $3.3 million.
Iyanla VanzantWhen you gossip, it's self-hexing. Because when you do it, it comes back to you. Everything starts with the word. The word is demonstrating a condition of the mind. If it's in your mind and comes out of your mouth, it will be created.
Iyanla VanzantNo storm can last forever. It will never rain 365 days consecutively. Keep in mind that trouble comes to pass, not to stay. Don't worry! No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever.
Iyanla VanzantIf someone has offended you, insulted you, or disappointed you, let it go! If you are remembering all the ways you have been hurt or forgotten, let it go! Ask yourself, what good does it do for me to hold on to this?
Iyanla VanzantYou must earn what you have. Life does not give you anything. You must give in order to get. You must stand up to the very thing that challenges you, look it in the face, get clear about your intention, order your thoughts and your life, and proceed without fear or hesitation. Life is not unfair. Along the way, you will always find bits of information and support to guide you to purpose.
Iyanla VanzantOur beliefs are what create our experiences. As we change our beliefs, we alter our perception, our version of reality.
Iyanla VanzantI don't think anybody can be held accountable or responsible for anyone's behaviors expect the individual. This goes beyond that particular situation.
Iyanla VanzantThere is nothing you need to do to make yourself more acceptable to God. You don't have to work harder, nor do you need to change the kind of work you do. You don't have to give more money to charitable organizations. The reality is, God doesn't want you to give anyone anything if you only do it to impress God! God does not love you or find you acceptable because of anything that you do. God loves you and accepts you because you are a part of God.
Iyanla VanzantIn my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was 'Help me.' Sometimes a prayer was 'Thank you.' What I've discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away.
Iyanla VanzantIt's important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story
Iyanla VanzantI now know that nothing in my life will change until I change the way I see my life and myself.
Iyanla VanzantWhen you find yourself in a new situation, everything that requires healing is going to rush to the surface.
Iyanla VanzantMy father never kissed me, hugged me or told me that he loved me. As my only living parent, he became the filter through which I saw myself, the possibilities for my life, the world and all men. He was a conflicted and dark filter.
Iyanla VanzantAnger simply means that your personal power - your personal space, your personal sense of being - has been violated
Iyanla VanzantAffirm: I now willingly release all negative beliefs about myself, my life and all other people. I now forgive myself for thinking I ever did anything wrong. I am now filled with the love and the Power that I am. For this I am so grateful! And so it is!
Iyanla VanzantWhen the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.
Iyanla VanzantPeople have a right to change their minds and it has absolutely nothing to do with you. People change. As people change, their needs change. When people have a need, it is their responsibility to themselves to see their needs are met. And it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
Iyanla VanzantAnything that threatens, hinders, obstructs, denies, delays your capacity to stand fully up for yourself, within yourself, take it down.
Iyanla VanzantUntil you make peace with your difficult memories, that pain will continue to bleed into your current and future experiences.
Iyanla VanzantWe are distracted from our greatness because are greatness is what scares us. Right where you are…God is.
Iyanla VanzantThere is a lot of healing going on. Really! More people are vegetarians, more are in the green movement, more of us are tearing down the old paradigms and embracing same-sex marriage, single motherhood, men raising babies.
Iyanla VanzantSpirituality is a journey inward that connects the Self to yourself. When you know who you are from the inside out, when you do what you sense is right for you, when your thoughts lead you to actions that serve others as well as make you feel good, then you have encountered spirituality.
Iyanla VanzantWhen a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then, there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. If you try to hold on to something that has already fulfilled its purpose in your life, you are going to hurt yourself. If holding on is disturbing your peace of mind, it makes sense to let it go.
Iyanla VanzantForgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.
Iyanla VanzantA wound needs air in order to heal. We must talk about and expose those things which have hurt or harmed us in some way. Our wounds need nurturing care in order to heal. If we are to nurture and heal, we must admit that the wounds exist. We must carefully do what is necessary to help ourselves feel better.
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