Beyond Good Intentions: 6 Common Ways You Might Unintentionally Hurt Others and How to Prevent Them 

It's important we pay attention to the reactions of others, try to listen to them and apologize openly when we've made a mistake  

Nadya Hamdan
Beyond Good Intentions: 6 Common Ways You Might Unintentionally Hurt Others and How to Prevent Them 

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All of us sometimes hurt people and we do it unconsciously. The best way to limit the number of these occasions is for them to openly share with us how our behavior makes them feel. However, not all people feel comfortable sharing.

Today we are looking at six situations that many of us have gotten into, hurting others unintentionally. Pay attention to whether you, too, exhibit this behavior at times and try to limit it.

Blaming others  

Many of us have this unpleasant habit of blaming our loved ones. Often, we even do it unconsciously. Listen carefully to the lines you use and see if some of them are just that. Here are a few examples of such behavior:

  • Your relative fails to come with you to a social gathering. In response, you make sure to tell them how sorry you are that they didn't come, or how lonely you were without them, and so on.
  • Your partner admits they forgot to buy bread and apologizes. You accept the apology, but mention several times what an inconvenience it is not to have bread for dinner.
  • Your colleague fails to keep up with your joint project. You finish it, but then make sure to remind them of the oversight and your sacrifice.

There are many examples like these, but the implication is clear. When you point out an error or omission without talking openly about the problem, you are assigning blame to others. Don't be surprised if you realize it hurts them.  

You interrupt and don't listen

Do you ever get so caught up in a conversation that you turn it into a monologue? Answer this question honestly. When we don't listen to our loved ones, interrupt them and impose our opinion entirely, we can leave them with the impression that we just don't care about them. And that definitely hurts. 

Not answering

Not responding to others, whether in open communication or online communication, shows disinterest. You certainly have a reason for your behavior – maybe you have a lot to do, you don't have time, you're easily distracted. But for the person across the room, the reason rarely matters.

You judge/criticize

We all have the tendency to judge. And at the same time, we don't like to be judged at all. Even if it's not on purpose, constantly criticizing, judging or ridiculing can hurt the feelings of others and affect their self-esteem badly.

Not keeping your promises

Broken promises can shake the trust that others have placed in us. No matter how solid a relationship we have with them, empty promises are likely to make them feel let down.

Communication problems 

Rarely do we realize the damage that any omission of something significant can do to our relationships. When we don't clearly and openly express our feelings and thoughts with others, we make them feel confused and ignored. In addition, the less we share, the greater the risk of becoming distant from those close to us. And this will inevitably hurt them.  

No one is immune from getting into a situation where they inadvertently disappoint those closest to them. In order to avoid such situations, it is important to pay attention to the reactions of others, try to listen to them and apologize openly when we have made a mistake.

Here are some tips for overcoming these behavior patterns:

💚Develop your empathy: Try putting yourself in the other person's shoes more often to understand how they would feel in a given situation. 

💚Observe others: Pay attention more often to the body language and reactions of others to sense how they feel and whether they are hurt by your behavior.

💚Control your emotions: don't let anger, irritation or other negative emotions get the better of you. They do not lead to anything good in the relationship. 

💚Communicate openly: Talk to others about how you feel and share how their behavior affects you. Let them know that they too can share and be heard.

💚Be patient: Behavior change is a process that takes time and effort. Show patience with yourself and with others. 

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