Real empathy is sometimes not insisting that it will be okay but acknowledging that it is not.
Sheryl SandbergDon't be afraid to ask the 'dumb' question, everyone else will be relieved you had the guts to ask!
Sheryl SandbergSuccess for me is that if my son chooses to be a stay-at-home parent, he is cheered on for that decision. And if my daughter chooses to work outside the home and is successful, she is cheered on and supported.
Sheryl SandbergWhat works for men does not always work for women, because success and likability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women. That's what the research shows. As a man gets more successful, everyone is rooting for him. As a woman gets more successful, both men and women like her less.
Sheryl SandbergSo there's no such thing as work-life balance. There's work, and there's life, and there's no balance.
Sheryl SandbergToday, despite all of the gains we have made, neither men nor women have real choice. Until women have supportive employers and colleagues as well as partners who share family responsibilities, they don't have real choice. And until men are fully respected for contributing inside the home, they don't have real choice either.
Sheryl SandbergLet's acknowledge that men reach for opportunities more quickly and more easily than women. So often as managers, we give the job to whoever starts solving the problem, to whoever jumps in. Since we know men will jump in faster than women in so many circumstances, we have to slow down and encourage more women to sit at more tables.
Sheryl SandbergWe have a problem with women in leadership across the board. This leadership gap - this problem of not enough women in leadership - is running really deep and it's in every industry. My answer is we have to understand the stereotype assumptions that hold women back.
Sheryl SandbergI'm not pretending I can give advice to every single person or every single couple for every situation; I'm making the point that we are not going to get to equality in the workforce before we get to equality in the home. Not going to happen.
Sheryl SandbergI think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice. You can give in to the void, the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning. These past thirty days, I have spent many of my moments lost in that void. And I know that many future moments will be consumed by the vast emptiness as well. But when I can, I want to choose life and meaning.
Sheryl SandbergFear is at the root of so many of the barriers that women face. Fear of not being liked. Fear of making the wrong choice. Fear of drawing negative attention. Fear of overreaching. Fear of being judged. Fear of failure. And the holy trinity of fear: the fear of being a bad mother/wife/daughter.
Sheryl SandbergMen can comfortably claim credit for what they do as long as they don't veer into arrogance. For women, taking credit comes at a real social and professional cost.
Sheryl SandbergFor any of us in this room today, let's start out by admitting we're lucky. We don't live in the world our mothers lived in, our grandmothers lived in, where career choices for women were so limited.
Sheryl SandbergIn those same 10 years, women are getting more and more of the graduate degrees, more and more of the undergraduate degrees, and it's translating into more women in entry-level jobs, even more women in lower-level management. But there's absolutely been no progress at the top. You can't explain away 10 years. Ten years of no progress is no progress.
Sheryl SandbergWhat I tell everyone, and I really do for myself is, I have a long-run dream, which is I want to work on stuff that I think matters.
Sheryl SandbergPages on Facebook are allowed to be anonymous. That is really important. People start revolutions; we need anonymity.
Sheryl SandbergWe cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.
Sheryl SandbergGetting from point A to point Z can be daunting unless you remember that you donโt have to get from A to Z. You just have to get from A to B. Breaking big dreams into small steps is the way to move forward.
Sheryl SandbergIt's easy to dislike the few senior women out there. What if women were half the positions in power? It would be harder to dislike all of them.
Sheryl SandbergWhen looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands.
Sheryl SandbergShe explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their accomplishments. Instead of feeling worthy of recognition, they feel undeserving and guilty, as if a mistake has been made. Despite being high achievers, even experts in their fields, women can't seem to shake the sense that it is only a matter of time until they are found out for who they really are- impostors with limited skills or abilities.
Sheryl SandbergMen feel like they can be a professional and a father. For women it's "or." That's offensive to me. The concept that it's not possible is crazy.
Sheryl SandbergI'd like to see where boys and girls end up if they get equal encouragement I think we might have some differences in how leadership is done
Sheryl SandbergThe traditional metaphor for careers is a ladder, but I no longer think that metaphor holds. It just doesnโt make sense in a less hierarchical world... Build your skills, not your resume. Evaluate what you can do, not the title theyโre going to give you. Do real work. Take a sales quota, a line role, an ops job. Donโt plan too much, and donโt expect a direct climb. If I had mapped out my career when I was sitting where you are, I would have missed my career.
Sheryl SandbergMotivation comes from working on things we care about. It also comes from working with people we care about.
Sheryl SandbergNo industry or country can reach its full potential until women reach their full potential.
Sheryl SandbergEndless data show that diverse teams make better decisions. We are building products that people with very diverse backgrounds use, and I think we all want our company makeup to reflect the makeup of the people who use our products. That's not true of any industry really, and we have a long way to go.
Sheryl SandbergThe social web can't exist until you are your real self online. I have to be me. You have to be you. Once we are online as ourselves, connected to each other and our other friends, then you can have the evolution of what becomes the social web.
Sheryl SandbergSocial media has created a historical shift from the historically powerful to the historically powerless. Now everyone has a voice.
Sheryl SandbergGrief comes and goes, it ebbs and flows. I think one of the lessons of this for me is that there's no one way to grieve. Everyone does it in their own way, in their own time, and we all process life and its challenges and its ups and downs as they come.
Sheryl SandbergWhen the man is traveling with a man, he says, "Let's stay up late and work on this and get this to be better." When the man's traveling with the woman, for the sake of appearances he doesn't do the work with her. That's a lost opportunity for her to be a success.
Sheryl SandbergDon't let your fears overwhelm your desire. Let the barriers you face-and there will be barriers-be external, not internal. Fortune does favor the bold, and I promise that you will never know what you're capable of unless you try.
Sheryl SandbergThe reason I don't have a plan is because if I have a plan I'm limited to today's options.
Sheryl SandbergThere is no straight path from your seat today to where you are going. Don't try to draw that line. You will not just get it wrong, you'll miss big opportunities. And I mean big-like the Internet. Careers are not ladders, those days are long gone, but jungle gyms. Don't just move up and down, don't just look up, look backwards, sideways around corners. Your career and your life will have starts and stops and zigs and zags. Don't stress out about the white space-the path you can't draw- because there in lies both the surprises and the opportunities.
Sheryl SandbergBring your whole self to work. I don't believe we have a professional self Monday through Friday and a real self the rest of the time. It is all professional and it is all personal.
Sheryl SandbergAt Facebook, we try to be a strengths-based organization, which means we try to make jobs fit around people rather than make people fit around jobs. We focus on what people's natural strengths are and spend our management time trying to find ways for them to use those strengths every day.
Sheryl SandbergSomeone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.
Sheryl SandbergI really think we need more women to lean into their careers and to be really dedicated to staying in the work force.
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